Who You Listen to Determines Where You Land

You’re standing at a crossroads, thinking of a decision you can’t make.

You’ve weighed it in your head for a while and imagined the outcomes.

So you do what most of us do: You ask around.

You skim through advice from people who sound confident, even if they’ve never walked your road.

And suddenly you’re more confused than when you started.

Who you listen to shapes where you end up.

The Bible says in Proverbs 13:20, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”

So there are only a few kinds of voices worth leaning into.

Learn from the example.
Look for someone who has built what you’re trying to build.
They have scars, stories, and proof.
So they know the cost because they paid it.

Learn from the anti-goal.
This is the person who failed in public and kept going anyway.
They don’t speak from theory but from bruises and wisdom earned the hard way.

Learn from the truth-teller.
This is the one who makes you shift in your seat.
They don’t flatter; they sharpen.
Their honesty feels uncomfortable because it matters.

Learn from the unbiased.
They gain nothing from your win and lose nothing from your loss.
That distance gives them clarity because they see angles others avoid.

Everyone else still gets kindness (a smile, a nod, a thank you), but not the steering wheel.

Many voices will call out, but only a few lead to life.

Wisdom asks better questions.
It listens with discernment.
And chooses voices with intention.

So, before you take your next step, pause and ask yourself one thing:

Who am I letting shape my direction right now?

The right people won’t just cheer your movement; they’ll help you walk the right path.